There is a balm in Galilee.
Or at least that’s what I’m looking and hoping for, a balm in Galilee.
The better known Balm of Gilead is only mentioned a few times in scripture and always as something with extraordinary healing properties, rare, and valuable. The idea was later adopted and incorporated into an African American Spiritual. “There is a balm in Gilead/to heal the sin sick soul.”
I’d take the balm of Gilead. I’ve a chronic condition, or few, that it’d be nice to treat for the last time. But the balm I’m looking and hoping for in Galilee, especially in Presiding Bishop Michael Curry’s metaphorical Galilee, is not the mythical or magical balm of Gilead.
I want the balm that will help the church, my well loved church, see me as a priest with chronic health issues, not as a problem to be fixed with doctors notes or only spoken of in hushed tones among trusted confidantes or endlessly suspect (“she says she has migraines, but who really knows” or worse “how can she pretend to do this demanding job if she’s in as much pain as she says”).
It’s only been in the last year that I’ve found the courage to risk telling people I didn’t already trust about my chronic health issues. My suspicion was well learned. My health issues preceded my ordination and it was mentors and leaders I’d both trusted and been required to trust with my still new realities that advised me in my first job search not to mention the brain surgeries or the migraines, or suggested a doctors note certifying that I could work, and (in the same conversation) assured me that any congregation which rejected me for these reasons wasn’t worth working for.
That was a long time, several jobs, and many blogs posts ago. And the church hasn’t changed. I know I’ve lost jobs for alluding to my health conditions and I prefer not to think about those who may have seen the same sentences and just never responded. I’ve received various advice from colleagues and congregants about my migraines, little of which my doctor agreed with. And I’ve learned that I’m not alone.
Along with friends who also live with chronic health conditions, more and less formal collegial groups who live with chronic health conditions, and friends who know how to listen, I’ve done my research and reading. 50% North Americans live with a chronic health condition, many of which we cannot see and society and the church prefer we not talk about. Half of us. I am so far from alone.
The balm I want Galilee to hold is not a cure for me. It is a road to Damascus falling away of the scales for my Church. Stop pretending I’m not here. Stop talking as though only old people were sick or in pain. See me, hear me. Find a way to hold both my gifts and my pain. More concretely
- Unlearn cliches. (Some examples here)
- See people not diagnoses.
- Don’t offer treatment advice unless asked. Not even that thing that was a miracle for your aunt/cousin/self.
- Respect their language choices. Some people use disability, some chronic illness. I’ve opted for chronic health condition here.
- Make one change every year to make your church more accessible. Here are 50 ideas.
- Stop preaching in Jesus’ healing as psychological or community wholeness. It was, but scripture says people were healed. Some of us would love to have our pain relieved and it hasn’t happened even after, in many cases, sincere faith and years of prayer.
- Get serious about the health benefits you provide your employees. Copays for doctor visits, medications, limited sick days, plans that only cover the ER if you are admitted to the hospital are some of the barriers to people taking care of themselves.
- Stock some Empathy Cards and send those.
- Chronic illness is long term and one day at a time. There are good, bad, and in between days. Trust people to judge their ability that day.
- Educate your parishioners. That can be serious or silly.
Most of us live with, care for, or love someone with a chronic health condition. May Galilee be a place where the Church can be healed of it’s blindness and ableism; a place where all of God’s children are encouraged to participate in the ways that best suit them.
4 thoughts on “There is a balm in Galilee”
Thank you, Robyn. You said it far better than I would have. Living with chronic health conditions is beyond frustrating. Thank you.
Thank you. This was a challenging post to write and publish. I’m glad you liked it.
Thank you for sharing this. I too have noticed a pattern in the church of talking about self-care, and then failing to provide the resources that empower people to do so in ways that are healing for them.
Abelism and assumptions about healing are a rampant challenge that you did a great job of naming hear. Again, thank you for sharing.
The assumptions about healing–even the wholeness as healing–regularly sets my teeth on edge.